"It's really shocking and there's so many horrible aspects of what happened and what people have done to each other [in Bosnia-Herzegovina]. I think that's an aspect of it that a lot of people have ignored, like, rape wasn't even considered a war crime, like even in Nuremberg, nobody was tried for rape. You know, and I was hearing stories in refugee camps about how women rape victims were just kind of lumped in with everybody else and they weren't really having any special needs and I think that's just an indicator of people's perspective towards women.
"The band has an organization. It's kind of my pet thing, it's called the Balkan Women's Aid Fund and what we do is solicit foundations for grants and ask people for individual donations, too, and we did some work with the Italian Red Cross and we got some money to the Autonomous Women's House working out of Zagreb. And all of these organizations that we work with they have, like, a feminist perspective and we think that's important because you get those kind of values across, you change people's values overall."
-Krist, March 1994, MTV News
"I've done drugs in my time and I don't think anyone should do drugs. I'm not going to promote it and that's why I've never admitted that I did drugs because I didn't want anyone to be influenced by it [...] I think that when articles like that are written that they influence kids whether or not it's negative it doesn't really matter, you know. It's still makes kids think, 'Oh, my rock star hero does heroin, you know. Maybe I will some day.' I think it's crap…"
-Kurt, 11 Sept 1992, MTV
""Those guys [Kurt and Courtney] went off into their own world and they were kind of thought of as vampires because they'd be gone and sleep all day," says Chris.
They barely spoke for five months, even at rehearsals.
But Chris was very upset about what was happening to his old friend. He would rant at Dave or Shelli, "Kurt's a fucking junkie asshole and I hate him!" Chris was angry with Kurt, he says, "Probably because I felt like he left me. I was really concerned and worried about him and there was nothing I could do about it. I was just taking my anger out on him.
"It was hard to understand," says Chris, "I couldn't get over the whole hurdle of heroin."
Part of the problem was that as usual, Chris didn't confront the problem with Kurt directly. "We've never really communicated very well when there's been a problem between us," Kurt says. "We never talk about it, we just let it pass. We've never confronted one another about things that piss each other off.""
-Krist and Kurt (1993), Come As You Are by Azerrad, page 255
"Anybody know about whiteknot.org? You know what that's about? It's I believe in love and I believe in equality and I believe in marriage equality."
-Dave, 6 Feb 2009, MusiCares benefit (he was wearing a white knot)
Archivist's note: The domain has now been parked by porn, but at the time, it was an awareness campaign emphasising that everyone should have the right to "tie the knot." Here is a snapshot of the website in 2009.
"I was politicized in high school. I had an open mind and didn’t really care for Reagan. I cut my teeth on radical punk rock – the Dead Kennedys, Maximumrockandroll, and MDC. Those were the few anti-Reagan voices at the time, especially if you were in Aberdeen [Wash.] and were 18 years old. I didn’t feel like reading dry political analyses. I needed something that spoke to me, that I could understand.
"The state of mind I was in was just anti-establishment and feeling awkward. I realized that “It’s not me, it’s those people [who have a problem].” They totally bought into mainstream culture, and I disassociated myself from it. Republicans – even Democrats – it was like “What do I care?” But I did vote when I was 18. I voted for Walter Mondale, and I’ve voted in every presidential election since.
"[...] Nirvana was always political. We talked about things and how we felt. There was Operation Desert Storm in early ’91, and it broke my heart that people bought into that. I was living in Tacoma, Wash., a real meat-and-potatoes town, and it was scary and surreal, the hypocrisy of the government and people buying it. Six months later, the mainstream culture that was duped by Desert Storm was all over us. We were repulsed. We were like “Who are these people?” It took us a long time to deal with that."
-Krist, 8 Feb 1996, Rolling Stone magazine
Archivist's note: Emphasis in bold is mine.
Rolling Stone: Neither you nor your former band mate Dave Grohl has talked publicly about Kurt Cobain since his suicide. Why?
[...]
Krist: It’s not proper to say anything. The emotional stake that Dave and I have in it is a lot more invested than the person who got to know Kurt through his music. There are things that are private and nobody should know. You can’t go through life tragedy-free. Your parents die, and one day you or your spouse is gonna die. Life is heavy, and it still hurts a lot.
-8 February 1996
Kurt: Now some white trash mothers are gonna sue us after they beat their children for a few years and neglect them, and then they kill themselves and blame it on us.
Krist: That's right. 'I gave him a good Christian upbringing. What happened?'
Kurt: 'I tanned his ass every day. He should have turned out just fine. If it wasn't for that record...'
-10 Aug 1993
Archivist's notes: They were talking about censorship and the moral panic among fundamentalist "Christians" in America, who conveniently blamed rock music (including Nirvana) for their children's behaviour, while failing to look at the real source of the problem: their own abusive parenting.
"Kurt was a pro-feminist person. And he was anti-homophobic. He actually said if you're homophobic or don't respect women, and so forth, so forth, don't come to our gigs, don't buy our records. Saying something like that has a really big impact. And that's one of the legacies, I think, that he's left."
-Ana da Silva of the Raincoats (one of Kurt's favourite bands)
When Nirvana Came to Britain (BBC documentary 2021)
Interviewer: If I can ask you a question just about the government and political system in USA. Are you agreeing with what's happened in USA, with government and what they're doing all the time?
Kurt: Oh, absolutely not.
Int: Yeah, I know. [laugh] Just want you to explain your view maybe a little bit.
Kurt: They're just carrying on the traditions of what they started with trying to destroy the Indians. They're totally gluttonous, they don't care about the future, they're raping the land, they're trying to get as much as they can, they don't care about the next generation, and it's completely corrupt.
It's just like most governments, though, you know? The average man gets into power, he doesn't have anything else to look forward to other than getting as much money as he can. You know? It's just a dog-eat-dog world.
-Interview with Viv Morrison and Ann Catherine
Paris, Hotel Royal Fromentin
November 1991
Interviewer: Yeah, [the reservations are] terrible, because they never smile, they have a very sad face. I want to know your opinion about these people and what the government made about with these people. It's terrible for a civilized country. I can't understand.
Kurt: Well, when the colonists came over to America, they took advantage of the Indians. The Indians invited them--I mean, they didn't invite them, but they helped them, they taught them how to live off the land, and [audio missing] ...Indian people, and put them in reservations. And they did all kinds of atrocious things to them.
They tried to wipe out whole races. They gave them blankets that were infected with diseases, and they gave them alcohol, which is something they weren't used to. As a people, as a race, they're 200 years behind of having alcohol in their system, so naturally, the majority of all the Indians are alcoholics now. And they don't have much to look forward to because they're all drunk, and they're put in these little reservations and they don't even fight the white man anymore.
-Interview with Viv Morrison and Ann Catherine
Paris, Hotel Royal Fromentin
November 1991
Krist: We're not Americans! We are the children of a genocide that was perpetrated against the natives many years ago. We have inherited all of this, but we are not stupid enough to accept it.
Dave: You can't call yourself American. You know, all of us are from--Kurt and I are German and Irish, Chris is Yugoslavian. There's no such thing as an American.
Kurt: The Americans are the Indians.
Krist: That was genocide, what happened to the Indians.
Dave: They're native Americans.
-Interview with Gian Carl Chirico
Rome, 1991
Archivist's note: This interview was translated into Italian and then back into English, so some nuance may have been lost.
(Found in Cobain Unseen by Charles R. Cross)
Archivist's note: Here is a typed transcript.
TOP TEN REASONS KURT COBAIN IS GAY
[A list by Kurt Cobain]
1. He's marrying Courtney Love.
2. "Breeder" (as in his song "Breed") is gay slang for "straight person."
3. He dyes his hair "girlie" colors.
4. All people are inherently bisexual.
5. He thinks men should be affectionate with each other.
6. He's so fucked up.
7. He has beautiful eyes.
8. He likes animals and children.
9. All cowboys/loggers are closet cases.
10. He has a K sticker on his guitar.
(AND A HOMEMADE "K" TATTOO!!)
The "K" refers to the logo of K Records, run by Kurt's acquaintance, Calvin Johnson of Beat Happening. The "K" might also be a sneaky reference to Krist's name, depending on when Kurt learned the original spelling. The fact that he includes it in this list suggests a possible double meaning.
"All people are inherently bisexual."
-Kurt, exact date unknown (Nov 1991-Feb 1992)
from Kurt's handwritten list "TOP TEN REASONS KURT COBAIN IS GAY"
Archivist's note: Some people claim bisexuals don't have a culture, but I contend that a big part of bi culture is claiming that everyone is bi. It's blatantly untrue, yet many bisexuals seem to believe this. XD Other prominent bisexuals who have stated this opinion include Gore Vidal, Mick Jagger, and David Bowie.
Jon Savage: Did you have problems in high school?
Kurt Cobain: Yeah. You know I felt so different and so crazy that people just left me alone. I always felt that they would vote me "Most likely to kill everyone at a high school dance." You know?
(22 July 1993)
Archivist's note: Thank god he picked up a guitar instead of a gun!!
"So, about two days ago I got really sick. I got this really bad cold, you know, like a flu...like illness, whatever. And uh, the doctor gave me this stuff to drink and I think it's Chinese herbs, and it has cow sperm in it. And it's got, like, lizard penis scrapings, and I still feel really sick, but it just makes me feel good to know that I've been drinking cow semen."
-Dave telling a random batshit story mid-gig, 19 Feb 1992
(Kurt then updated School's lyrics to reflect Dave's charming tale)
"I think it's one of grunge's greatest legacy, is actually the killing off of misogyny in rock for quite a while. You know? I mean, really, it was very passe to be a misogynist in rock there for a while. And that was helped by guys like the guys in Nirvana, and the guys in Pearl Jam, and bands like us [L7], and Babes In Toyland, and Lunachicks, and then Riot Grrrl later. So, yeah, I think that's a big deal."
-Donita Sparks, 21 Jul 2015, Women of Rock Oral History Project
"I'm a fan of rap music, but most of it's so misogynist that I can't even deal with it. I'm really not that much of a fan. I totally respect and love it because it's one of the only original forms of music that's been introduced, but the white man doing rap is just like watching a white man dance. We can't dance. We can't rap."
-Kurt, when asked his opinion on white rap, 20 Sept 1991
Kurt: I always wanted to move to the big city. I wanted to move to Seattle, find a chicken hawk, sell my ass, and be a punk rocker, but I was too afraid. So I just stayed in Aberdeen for too long, until I was 20 years old.
SPIN: Forgive me for being uneducated, but when you said "chicken hawk"--
Kurt: A chicken hawk is, like, an older gay man.
SPIN: Okay.
Kurt: Who sells children, like in Oliver Twist, you know.
-Spin Magazine, December 1992
Archivist's note: For a song by Kurt on this topic, click here.
"The whole thing seemed sort of surreal, and it raced by in a heartbeat and it seemed like a dream. It’s not unlike these recurring dreams that I’ve had for the past 24 years, y’know.
I still dream that Nirvana is still a band, and Kurt just appears – like he’s been in hiding (laughs). We look at him and go, ‘What the fuck?! Where have you been?’
And we’ve got a gig in an hour, and I get this feeling, like, ‘Oh my gosh, I get to play these songs again.’ I have that dream at least once or twice a year and have done for the past 24 years. Getting up to play those songs is like living in that dream."
-Dave, on the 2018 Cal Jam Nirvana reunion, Kerrang Magazine 3 Jan 2020
“I have dreams all the time. I have dreams about once a month. [...] Well, they’re usually all the same, but in all of them it’s prior to his [Kurt's] death. He shows up in my dreams, and I’m like holy shit! You’re not dead, and it’s like it was some big secret or some big joke and then you can’t wait to tell everyone. Then you wake up. Within them there’s the same conversations that always happen. In those dreams, he’s never dead; he’s always alive, so I think it’s kind of cool.
I think there’s a whole lot more to the spirit than people can even comprehend. I think there’s more … it’s even too much bravado and egotistical for human beings to think that we’re the end, or that their minds are capable of understanding the universe. It’s not possible. Fuck you for telling me life can’t exist outside planet Earth. How do you know? There’s romance and mystery or the thrill of the chase, whatever. I’m not willing to make up my mind yet.”
-Dave Grohl, Flaunt Magazine, Nov 2002